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Coaching Corner: Inside out happiness!

Jun 25, 2021

By Marilou Butcher Roth, Master Coach

Happiness is not something readymade. It comes from your own actions. ~~~ Dalai Lama

Let’s face it, we all aspire to find happiness -- we do not make choices in life with the intention to create unhappiness. And yet, without question, there are some choices that we make that do, in fact, create something other than happy!

Although it can sometimes be a hard pill to swallow, we are in charge of our own happiness. What that means is we cannot look to others, material items, money or even something like the weather to generate that sometimes elusive feeling. Happiness is an inside job, and it must begin within and then flow out.

Let’s look at a common scenario. Do you ever find yourself lamenting about what someone else has (or has not) done? Come on, we have all had this experience at one point or another. The problem is not the initial thought that you have around this. The issue comes in when we do not move from this place, when we continue to harp, either internally or externally, about this misdeed. We get stuck in what is happening “to me,” rather than identifying what needs to occur to move us forward. Is there a conversation that needs to happen? Or perhaps, it is just a conversation you need to have with yourself about your feelings. Every situation is different and requires your self awareness to navigate.

If you are not experiencing happiness, take a little journey inside and you may just find exactly what you are looking for!


Marilou Butcher Roth is the owner of The MBR Group, a coaching and training company working primarily with REALTORS who have a desire to work and live from a more inspired place. She is also the Broker/Owner of Group REALTORS in Cincinnati. Marilou is a member of the Ohio REALTORS Board of Directors and past chairman of the organization’s Communications Committee. Feel free to contact Marilou to see if coaching is right for you.

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