Coaching Corner: Look Again
By Master Coach Marilou Butcher Roth
Earlier this week, I was having a conversation with one of my coaching clients, and the phrase "self-transparency" came out of my mouth. It cracks me up when this happens, as it is not a phrase that I have ever used before. After I spoke the phrase, I actually wrote it down so I wouldn't forget what I said.
We often discuss transparency in our society, within our world, our governing bodies and companies. How transparent are we being with ourselves, though? How much do we find ourselves engaged in blame or judgment without even the slightest hint of going within to ask what we are truly feeling, or how we may have brought a situation into our experience?
It starts with each of us. If we are consistently looking outside of ourselves, we are missing out not only on major learnings, but the real juice of life! Getting to this place will take some practice and commitment, so don't expect to master this idea of self-transparency overnight.
Begin with this simple exercise - right where you are, notice something around you. Don't go deep on this; keep it simple. Perhaps you are currently sitting at your desk. What do you see? It is easy for me to use this example because that is exactly where I am sitting. As I shift my attention from typing, I notice a ceramic glass-like object that I've placed my reading glasses in, which is gray-blue on the outside and white on the inside. OK so far? Now it's your turn. What do you see? Now, loop your attention back to yourself. Bring your awareness inward and notice what is happening inside yourself.
You might be thinking that this is a silly exercise. That's absolutely okay. This exercise is designed to help you develop the habit of shifting your attention between external events and your inner self, thereby increasing the range and degree of information you can access.
This is a skill set that, when developed, allows you to easily tune into YOU and what's really happening, hence becoming self-transparent!! Tuning in brings you to deeper questions of "what do I really want" and "how is this particular pattern serving me."
You may even find it helpful to jot down notes in key places to remind yourself to pay attention. Please remember to keep it simple and have fun!!
Marilou Butcher Roth
Marilou Butcher Roth is the owner of The MBR Group, a coaching and training company working primarily with REALTORS who have a desire to work and live from a more inspired place. She is also the Broker/Owner of Group REALTORS in Cincinnati.
Marilou is a member of the Ohio REALTORS Board of Directors and past chairman of the organization’s Communications Committee.
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