Coaching Corner: What? Why? How?
By "Coach" Marilou Butcher Roth
Let’s have a bit of fun and do some prep for our upcoming new year. Each year, I write about the virtues and downsides of creating our desires for New Years. Most call these New Year’s Resolutions -- to which I say poppycock (lest I use another word that might be considered inappropriate). Resolution? Really? So, we resolve to do something that we determine -- or at least hope -- will make a difference in our lives. And, we all know that most often, within a relatively short period of time, our so called resolve gives way to other matters that seem more important.
What’s the trick? How do we stay on track with the items we so carefully crafted at the end of the year? Well, there are no guarantees, but this may just help.
First, begin with the WHAT -- what do you want to incorporate/accomplish? Writing it down is particularly helpful, as it gives you something to look back to as well as being to feel as you write.
Next, spend a few minutes on each item to explore WHY you want this particular item. How will your life be different? Who, if anyone other than yourself, will be impacted? Look at any resistance that may show up for you. Have you unsuccessfully attempted this same action in the past? Taking some time to explore this piece will give you a much greater shot at success.
Last, write out HOW you will incorporate this item into your life. Be realistic! Is there anyone else that may be a part of this? If so, make sure you are having a clear conversation with them.
As you continue through the months of 2019, check back in with your intentions, and, the reasoning behind them, to keep you in the loop of motivation. Remember, you are creating an agreement with yourself, and as with any agreement, if it needs to be changed or deleted, you need to consciously do that, so it becomes a clear choice. If you just stop the activity, because you are “too busy,” you will compromise the integrity within yourself. Be clear about your choices and make the best ones for YOU!
Happy New Year! Welcome to to 2019!