Coaching Corner: Are you swimming with the sharks or the dolphins?
By Marilou Butcher Roth, Master Coach
Even as I type the title of today’s blog post, I am questioning if what I have typed portrays what I am trying to convey. So, let me explain it further...
On Thursday, I was having a conversation with a friend, discussing their current environment, which they consider to be negative. How, they wondered, do you operate at your best when everyone around you is coming from a place that doesn’t support the type of life you desire? I am paraphrasing this, as I cannot remember their exact words, however, the meaning is the same.
Well, that prompted me to look more closely at this very commonplace problem. What do you do? Do you retreat to protect the fragile state of positivity you have left? Or do you attempt to bring them all to their ever loving senses? It’s tricky, isn’t it?
Here’s the scoop... We can absolutely NOT control how others behave -- and -- we do not have to like it! The trick is to take your attention off of the negative Nellies and place it where you do have control -- within yourself! Where is your focus? Is it on those folks that are creating the havoc within your beautiful life? Well, that can and will, make it even more apparent. Whatever we place our attention on will get bigger!
We are all exposed to environments (and people) that come across as negative. When we place our attention on how bad or wrong they are, we actually become part of the problem. They are focused negatively on something and now, so are we...them!
So this week, pay attention to finding things within your days that you can appreciate and enjoy, regardless of anything else happening in your life. If things aren’t going so great, you will experience a lovely shift. And, if life is already peachy, it will just get even better!!!