Coaching Corner: Back it up!
By "Coach" Marilou Butcher Roth
No, I do not mean backing up your computer, although that is always good advice! What I am referring to is how we tackle big life decisions. When we are faced with questions regarding a direction or action to take, we mentally go to the end result searching for our best possible answers. The problem is, most of the time we won't find the answer we are searching for.
So what do we do to access that information? How do we determine the best direction to take? In my experience, the most effective way is to back up to the present and work from there. Today I would like to address this from a couple of positions.
What I have found with clients trying to choose wisely is that they have often gone numb to the normal everyday choices -- food, clothes, conversations, movies, etc. They make their choices based upon what they always do, or possibly the path of least resistance or even to please someone else. When you do this for a prolonged period of time, your “choice muscles are weak and unprepared for the bigger decisions. If you find yourself in this category, begin making choices based upon what you truly want, no matter how small the choice!
The other way that we keep ourselves stuck in indecision is with the thinking I will be happy when __________. This is backwards from how things actually work. Allow me to give one of my favorite analogies --imagine a wagon wheel, big or small, it doesn't matter. The center piece of the wheel is how I want you to think of yourself. Now, you have two choices -- you can live your life from the center out, meaning that you are the one taking responsibility for your life and your happiness. Or...you can imagine that you live your life in a constant state of I will be happy when_______, in which case all of those pointy spokes are coming directly at you!!
We need to find our happiness in each moment -- look for it -- make it your intention each and every day!
Look back through this blog and gently see if either resonates for you. Practicing both of what I talked about will put you into a much more pro-active role both in your business and your personal life! Enjoy!
