Coaching Corner: Stop...drop...roll
By "Coach" Marilou Butcher Roth
One of my intentions in coaching is to provide clear and easy tools to assist you in creating a more fulfilling life, both professionally and personally. We all have a tendency at times to make things more difficult than they need to be. OK, perhaps I am speaking only of myself, but I am guessing there are others out there who have similar experiences.
Today, bring to mind a recent situation that occurred for you that felt challenging or upsetting -- basically, something happened that you did not like! What did you do when it happened? How did you react? Did you speak words that looking back you wish you could cancel out? Let's explore the possibility of how to create a more "easeful" experience around those situations.
During a group coaching session earlier this week, I was explaining this particular tool and wanting to put it into a form that the group might remember and be able to access at a moments notice, and this is our result:
STOP -- When a situation occurs that generates discomfort of some kind for you...STOP! Before you have a reaction of saying something you wish you had not or perhaps before leaving abruptly...STOP!
DROP -- Now, notice what is happening for you, i.e. DROP inside yourself to determine what you are feeling. It might be anger, sadness, fear -- or milder versions of these emotions such as frustration, disappointment or anxiousness. Or, you might be aware of a body sensation of some kind -- perhaps you notice that your jaw is clenched or your stomach is tightening up. Just notice and allow that feeling to be there without judgment about it.
ROLL -- Once you have awareness as to what you are feeling, ask yourself if there is an action that needs/wants to be ROLLED out. Is there a conversation you need to have or do you just need to spend some time to be with yourself and the situation? Trust your inner guidance and act accordingly.
Stop, drop and roll are words that we know in relation to when a fire occurs and now, when another type of fire occurs, you will be able to access the same grouping to bring you to an easier space for yourself.
Enjoy the holiday weekend!!!
Marilou Butcher Roth
Marilou Butcher Roth is the owner of The MBR Group, a coaching and training company working primarily with REALTORS who have a desire to work and live from a more inspired place. She is also the Broker/Owner of Group REALTORS in Cincinnati.
Marilou is a member of the Ohio REALTORS Board of Directors and past chairman of the organization’s Communications Committee.
