Coaching Corner: The good, the bad and the ugly
By "Coach" Marilou Butcher Roth
How often do you find yourself putting situations (and people) into one of these categories? We have all had thoughts that tend to be in the judgmental category -- we are human. What I am asking you to do today is consider bringing more neutrality into your thinking as we notice situations and/or people (including yourself).
There is a great class that the National Association of REALTORS developed titled “Implicit Bias,†which meets your Fair Housing continuing ed credit. If you have not had the opportunity to take this class, I strongly suggest that you look into it. During the class, many different types of judgments that we hold unconsciously are explored, and I will tell you it can be quite a surprise!
Bottom line -- when we can observe from a place of neutrality, we are able to see differently. Something that before we may have judged as “bad†or “wrong,†can merely be an “oh, that is interesting.†What if we could just notice without pigeonholing?
This week, pay attention to how you are categorizing or judging situations or people. Notice if you catch yourself saying something like “that is so wrong -- they should never have done that.†Then ask yourself if that is really true, it is definitely your opinion but stating that they should never have done ______ may not be true! Whenever you see or hear the word “should,†pay attention!
Have fun with this one, especially with thoughts about yourself!!
Marilou Butcher Roth
Marilou Butcher Roth is the owner of The MBR Group, a coaching and training company working primarily with REALTORS who have a desire to work and live from a more inspired place. She is also the Broker/Owner of Group REALTORS in Cincinnati.
Marilou is a member of the Ohio REALTORS Board of Directors and past chairman of the organization’s Communications Committee.
