Coaching Corner: Making peace with the problem
By "Coach" Marilou Butcher Roth
It's interesting how life brings us lessons, some small, and some not so small, that give us just what we need! Earlier this week, I was scheduled to get a permanent crown put on one of my teeth. Although the scheduling was tricky, I carved out an ample amount of time to have the work done and then some time to relax a bit. Well, it didn't exactly turn out that way!
My mouth refused to cooperate and although part of my mouth was numb, the part that required the most numbing was not happening. After several attempts and another period of time in the waiting room, we all decided to call it quits and reschedule. I left the office feeling agitated (and partially, unnecessarily numb), and a bit sorry for myself I must admit. It was time to talk myself off of the ledge.
My self-conversation went something like this: this makes no sense -- I can't imagine why this is happening. Hmm, I wonder what there might be for me to gain from this experience? I do trust that every experience provides something beneficial, so WHAT IS IT? I mean what is it? :)
As I continued to converse, I was breathing and trying to open my posture rather than the tight knot I had gotten myself into. If I truly believe that every experience holds within it something beneficial (and I do), then theoretically I can relax into that knowing -- right???
Shortly after this very interesting, one-sided conversation, I noticed I felt more relaxed and was almost laughing at the big deal I had just made out of something so minor in comparison. At that point, I felt like I had made peace with the entire situation and it just wasn't holding me hostage any more! Hot dog!
Finding my peace within what felt major just an hour before felt exhilarating! I felt in control, rather than the previous “why me?†feeling. And, yesterday, I had my rescheduled appointment and I numbed up immediately -- all done. And, the learning I got from this was worth it!
Marilou Butcher Roth
Marilou Butcher Roth is the owner of The MBR Group, a coaching and training company working primarily with REALTORS who have a desire to work and live from a more inspired place. She is also the Broker/Owner of Group REALTORS in Cincinnati.
Marilou is a member of the Ohio REALTORS Board of Directors and past chairman of the organization’s Communications Committee.
